If you are reading this, then consider today the first day of the rest of your life…
Forget everything you know about making a relationship work, and pay close attention.
The Best relationship advice anyone can get can be summed up in one word.
“EMPATHY”
What is “EMPATHY”?
It is simply the ability to ‘put yourself in another person’s shoes.’ It is the ability to feel what they feel, to see things from their perspectives.
How does this apply to relationships? Conflicts are the bane of happy relationships, and all conflicts arise from difference in opinions, chiefly due to difference in perspectives.
Couples fight about money, sex, kids, furniture, outings, in-laws, etc.
Now imagine a scenario where each partner in a relationship is eager to see things from their partner’s perspective.
That’s the difference between shouting, and insisting that it will be “My way or the high way”
And understanding that your partner does not have to be wrong for you to be right, and vice versa. “
Empathy seeks to understand.
When you are empathetic you listen, you ask questions instead of argue.
Empathy is saying; “Honey, even though I feel strongly about my opinion, I also would love to see it from your point of view.
Because two partners are like strangers on different sides of a river, empathy is the boat that bridges the distance.
In the end, you discover that you were on the same side all along.
You scream “Oh I get it now” and laugh, and call each other names.
Because Love is a beautiful thing. And you know deep down, that you are lucky to have found someone willing to put up with your shit..